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This talk is as brilliant and insightful as it is entertaining and engaging.
Holly’s presentation was by far one of the most popular and memorable.
— Dr. Katherine Boutry, founder of THE CREATIVE EDGE conference, Los Angeles



How are women and men effected, not by the fact of their gender, but by the conscious and unconscious "shoulds" which are imposed based on ideas we have about gender?

Where is gender expectation inhibiting our creative edge? Our potential for leadership? Our core confidence?




Culture is communicated through values and shoulds, rules and roles. We learn it from our programming as well as being immersed in it over a short period of time - almost like osmosis.

How much have we all explored what about our behavior and expectations of ourselves and others are based on unconscious shoulds? How are those shoulds limiting us, dividing us, and keeping us all from our highest potentials?

This talk addresses the origins of our gender expectations and opens up a discussion that can further expose where each of us is suffering from them...and how to break free. This is terrain that, if we all took a page from one another, we could actually share what we have learned from each and every gender expectation and help break free of them. What can men and women learn from one another: listening, empathy, teamwork, balance, individual gain, asking for exactly what you want, leadership, confidence, and being goal-focused? The next step is less about "gender versus gender" and much more about the different values we place on ourselves and each other, and the shoulds that box us in.


• Powerpoint presentation (video only, no audio)
• Length is variable
• Ideal for audiences of both men and women, of all background and identities.
• A Q&A discussion to follow the talk.


Schedule a workshop based on the talk to further explore the issues of gender expectation and most importantly, experience freedom from them on the other side.

What is possible and who are you liberated from your shoulds?

What kind of culture is possible when that becomes the norm?