GOOD GIRLS AREN'T FUNNY: the talk
A multimedia talk & discussion about the origins and implications of "the good girl" and her effects on women's creativity, confidence, and untapped potentials.
• TO INFORM
To use comedy - and what it takes for women to be authentically funny - as an analogy to expose a “voice” that lives in all women. This “voice” advises us away from our edge, from being the confident leader that lies within, from living autonomously free from ‘shoulds’, and from a deep trust and bond with other women.
• TO EDUCATE
To educate women and men on the historical origins on the “good girl’s” motive or value structure so they can begin to see it for its universal nature instead of it being something they only personally grapple with. These layers within us all have various motives and strategies, and have been passed down in various ways - biologically, culturally, and memetically (through shared values).
• TO BRING AWARENESS
To help the women attending see in themselves that wanting to be seen and valued as “good, perfect, liked” is not the same pat of themselves that wants to be valued for being bold, confident, fearless, to lead and to have one another’s backs. As a matter of fact, they can often be seen and experienced as opposing forces within us.
• TO INSPIRE
To ignite interest in how women are constructed, what informs what we do, what we care about, and how we value ourselves. To spark an exploration and conversation around gender, values, and where we as women want to go.
• TO EMPOWER
To give women the insights, language, and tools to help navigate situations where the “good girl” might get triggered so they can be conscious and make different choices. Choices that come from the bold, fearless, free and self-directed part of themselves.
LOCATIONS OF PREVIOUS TALKS
Pace University (NYC)
Emerson College (Boston)
UCLA (Los Angeles)
Bryn Mawr (Pennsylvania)
West L.A. College (Los Angeles)
Skadden law firm (NYC)
M&C Saatchi (LA)
Comedy Central (NYC)
The Groundlings Theater & School (LA)
NYWIFT: New York Women in Film & Television (NYC)
The Barrow Group (NYC)
The Lowbar (LA)
The Free Association (London)
MORE ABOUT THE TALK
After years of performing, teaching, and directing improv at The Groundlings Theater & School in LA, as well as in NYC at her own improv school, Holly couldn't help but notice a trend in her women students and fellow improvisers...and herself. It was a strange shift that they would do seemingly without rhyme or reason, slipping from brave, confident, bold performers to meek, slightly insecure, safe ones that were happy to follow and let others take the lead and who were more interested in getting it “right” than anything else. And, clearly, this was happening outside of the classroom as much as within.
At the same time Holly was noticing while working at Comedy Central a lack of the same edginess, risk-taking and uniqueness in the women comediennes there. It led her to investigate what was going on and she found some very interesting pieces of a puzzle that seems to be on many women's minds but hard to pinpoint. The answers span the biological, historical, psychological and cultural terrain with a focus on a very interesting moment in our collective history...when the "good woman" was born. And why her time is up!
• Powerpoint presentation (visuals, no audio)
• Length is variable
These original talks and discussions are for women and men from any field and background.
TOPICS ASSOCIATED WITH TALK:
• Women & Gender Values
• Perfectionism, Likability & Confidence
• Women's History
• Social and Cultural Dynamics
• Biological and Historical Lens on Gender
is a version of the talk Holly gives to businesses and Women's organizations dedicated to developing women in leadership, core confidence, and greater innovative thinking.
Contact us to find out more about the talk & workshop series. You can also read more about her corporate training at www.iMergenceUSA.com.